This article is designed to help you close the gap from
where you are to where you want to be.
Imagine living life by the true north on your soul’s compass. Is your compass spinning around unable to find north? Do you go from one activity to the next because you're an expert at saying 'yes'... let’s break this down and discuss values, priorities, boundaries & ignite that spark that's missing!
WHAT IS YOUR SOUL SAYING ...
The quickest way to find out what your values are is to think of someone who triggers you or does something that creates an emotional response. Let’s say Bob shows up late to an appointment and it drives you mad, then you value time management, or we could get even deeper and it see that 'Integrity' is a value of yours. Your value people who say they will do something and then follow through on their promises. I once did a life changing exercise and now I wish to share it with you look at the following words and choose three that really align with who you are.
RELIABILITY LOYAL COMMITTED HUMOUROUS
SUSTAINABILITY INNOVATION EXCELLENCE OPTIMISTIC
DEPENDABLE PASSIONATE COURAGEOUS POSITIVE
RESPECTFUL INTEGRITY HONESTY NURTURING
FAMILY BALANCE GROUNDING CLARITY
INSPIRING CONSISTENT EFFICIENT OPEN-MINDED
ADVENTUROUS RESOURCEFUL FUN CUSTOMER SERVICE
HUMBLE COMMUNITY RESPONSIBILITY QUALITY
SATISFACTION DELIGHT SUPPORT CARING
PARTNERSHIP BEST VALUE GLOBAL
TEAMWORK LEADERSHIP TEAMWORK DIVERSITY
HUMILITY TRANSPARENCY RESULTS FANATICAL
FRIENDS LISTENING LEARNING EDUCATION
TAKE YOUR TIME BACK......
If I had a dollar for every time I used this sentence I'd be a rich woman! So, you want to know the life changing words that give me back my me time every Monday? 'That's not a priority for me right now'
Now you have you three values I invite you to have a look at your bookings for the week ahead, hopefully you use a diary... and if you don't maybe we could sit down and do a coaching session, but I digress... so what I do is on a Sunday night I sit down and review what’s ahead of me for the week. Then using my values, I look at each item on my to-do list and I ask does that meeting, catch up, class, etc. align with my values. As I scan over my week ahead I look at my values of work/life balance, integrity & grounding. Then I cancel out of my diary what feels like 'too much' or anything that I don't want to go to for me because it is not in line with my main priority... ME!
NOW THE FUN PART!!!!
Okay, okay so as I type I am now getting really pumped up, I am typing faster, sitting up straighter and excited because I know this is where I started to take control of my own happiness. Now that you have cancelled out 2/3 things in your diary its time to replace them with something you LOVE........ yep insert your own, ME TIME into your diary. I like to have a list of 10 things that light me up in my wallet always, then if I get some me time back I go to my list and act to create a moment for myself that ignites a spark in my soul. Stuck for ideas here's a few to get you going... walk in nature, go for a run, meditate, read a book (and don't feel guilty for putting your feet up and relaxing), play with your pets, book a massage, get your hair done, grab a fruit salad or ice cream and sit by the water’s edge just because you can, draw, listen to music, smell a flower, drive somewhere, go to a waterfall, start a project that just for you, call your best friend and soulfully connect ad catch up, dance, sign up for a yoga class, join a tribe of likeminded people............say yes to you!
Tegan Rein
Life Coach and Business Empowerment coach